A Partial List of Heart-Connected Feelings and Behaviors
Heart-connected feelings are soft and warm, accompanied by an openness to learning, and naturally present when not blocked by fear.
Heart-connected feelings include: Compassion, Love, Empathy, Sympathy, Sadness, Unhappiness, Contentment, Serenity, Humility, Fulfillment, Bliss and Joy.
Heart-connected feelings are: Innocent, Tender, Relaxed, Peaceful, Calm, Gentle, Sorrowful, Harmonious, Happy, Alive, Cheerful, Sparkling, Vibrant, Delighted, Enthusiastic, Graceful, Light, Alert, Optimistic, Blissful, Glad, Playful, Upbeat, Animated, Ecstatic, Excited, Passionate, Sensual and Freeing.
Heart-connected behaviors include: Caring, Comforting, Nurturing, Affectionate, Giving, Honoring, Reverent, Forgiveness, Connected, Intimate, Mindful, Appreciative, Grateful, Tears of joy and/or sadness, Considerate, Thoughtful, Embracing, Generous, Receptive, Benevolent, Accepting, Of service.
Being open to learning includes: Curiosity, Concern, Inquisitiveness, Attentiveness, Involvement and a desire to learn about oneself as well as others.
A Partial List of Heart-Disconnected Feelings and Behaviors
Heart disconnected feelings are hard and cold, there is no desire to learn, and result from fear.
Heart-disconnected manipulative feelings include: Annoyance, Irritation, Belligerence, Combativeness, Anger, Enraged, Fuming, Loathing, Hate, Fury, Hostile, Irate, Mad, Outrage, Pissed-off, Judgmental, Blaming, Condescending, Uptight, Aggrieved, Exasperated, Disgust, Bitterness, and Hysteria.
Heart-disconnected disaffected feelings include: Despondent, Envious, Greedy, Alienated, Jealous, Spiteful, Resentful, Disheartened, Empty, Bored, Inadequate, Insecure, Distracted, Dissatisfaction, Unhappy, Being a victim, Guilt, Shame, Stressed-out, Grouchy, Aloneness, Separate, Lonely, Disconnected, Emotional distance, Misery, Anxiety, and Neediness.
Heart-disconnected behaviors include: Arguing, Criticism, Revenge, Cruel, Quarrelsome, Ridicule, Demeaning, Yelling, Hitting, Lecturing, Controlling, Whining, Shaming, Tears of a victim, Attempting to convince, convert, win over, prove a point, impose guilt, get something, and be understood. Threatening and/or carrying out threats, Telling others how and what they should be feeling and/or doing, Avoidance, Withdrawing into indifference, Giving “the silent treatment” and Imprisoning.
A simple way to determine if a feeling or behavior comes from the heart is to remember that heart-connected responses always contain both compassion and an openness to learning. When both are not present, fear blocks the heart.